For the last twenty years I’ve followed two dreams. My dream of continuing to help students find their potential at college and above and also my dream of owning small businesses. I’ve been one of the lucky ones that has been able to do both of those. It wasn’t easy by any means but when looking back in reflection, I can easily say I wouldn’t take another path. I started contemplating how the next step in a student’s career is a lot like starting a business. It came to me when I hit my twenty year mark, yesterday of working in higher education. I’m big on reflective learning. Reflective learning is where you look back on a chunk of time or a situation and you get data and insight that helps you moving forward. A lot of people get stuck on the “reflective regret” which is where you look back and all you want to do is change that specific moment in time. Don’t get me wrong, we all have a particular situation like that. But the danger for most, is that the situation they reflect on will consume them and they will miss everything else. I’ll digress back to the topic now, or we could get stuck on this topic for the whole post.
When you look at starting a business, the first thing is the idea. How it fits into the workplace and what need it fulfills. You start coming up with a prototype and doing due diligence on product viability. Everyone tells you that it sounds like a great idea so you embark on it. You start working feverishly on it, constant tweaks and late nights, crawling your way to the top of the competition. At some point, you may need capital and you start to look for venture funding. Venture capitalists (VC) are people that invest time and money into you and your idea to help make it even bigger and better than it was. They own a part of your business now, so you can’t let them down or waste their money. If all goes well, your product/business goes well, you make enough money so that you and your investors are happy and you are proud that you were able to grow something into the giant that it is now. A lot of young students that are thinking about college or trade school right now, may have that entrepreneurial itch and may choose to go that route right out of the gate. About 10% of them will be successful at that.
So how is college like a start-up business?
The next steps that you take for determining college and beyond will mirror almost identically the same growing pains that a budding entrepreneur feels when starting a business. So let’s break down the steps as it relates to you from above…
As always… Dream It, Believe It, Do It and Win It!
Where Is Your Ground?
I recently was perusing some old magazine articles that I saved and came across an old Editor’s Note. It must have been compelling when I read it back in 2016 for me to intentionally rip it out and save it to come back to. The title was “Know Your Place”. In short, it was about finding your perfect place in this world in what you want to do professionally, where you want to move, etc. The backbone of the article was about finding something that really inspired you.
As I re-read the article, I was flooded with ideas of how this correlates to your (a student) current struggle of finding not the perfect college, but the perfect college for YOU. In the article, they talked about finding your “ground”. The solid foundation on which to grow roots and flourish. As with most things in life, it’s very easy to procrastinate to the point, where choices have dried up and we jump at the first thing that’s still available. For this article though, I want you to really do a self evaluation and start to dream a little bit about what your perfect ground/perfect college is for you.
Part of the journey of college is the beginning of independence. That fresh beginning to discover what you believe, how to be involved, what to do with what you’re studying. Finding your groud, so that you can plant those roots and grow upward. When looking at colleges, I always talk about finding the right fit in several key areas. Obviously, the college major you want, is number one for me. But as we go down the list, the next is what level of involvement do you need on your campus to feel connected and grow personally and/or spiritually. You have to investigate the clubs, activities, the campus size. All these things are important parts that I slide in right after choosing a college based on a major. For student that “find their ground”, the college experience is exactly that, an experience. For others, if they don’t feel that fit or connection, the root doesn’t take hold in the ground, and they usually have a less than positive experience. That can lead to dropping out, negative bias on their alma mater etc.
You are going to have many people guiding you consciously or unconsciously through this decision. They can help you when it comes to finding a school with your major, figuring our your financial aid and much more. But what they can’t do, is find “your ground”. That is completely up you. Intentional research, asking questions of current students, multiple campus visits, and finding something that feels right is what is going to help you fine “your ground.”
The college search process is daunting, I get it. It’s a big step off into the next chapter of life. But if you can find a place that inspires you, a place that you get solidly plan your roots into, the rest will start to fall into place.
As always… Dream It, Believe It, Do It and Win It!
Like most people, I get my TV watching done in binge sessions on Netflix. I don’t watch a terrible amount of TV, since reading is my preferred method of entertainment. However, in those instances where I can knock out a season or two of a show while being sick on the couch, I’ll do it. The latest of these shows is called, “Madam Secretary.” It’s a great show about the Secretary of State that balances saving the world with an awesome home life. In one of the latest episodes from Season One that I watched, the main character, Elizabeth McCord has a tough conversation with her 20 year old daughter who is fresh off of dropping out of college. I’m going to dive further into this below, but here is the sage advice that she offered.
“If you never listen to anything I say again for the rest of your life, please hear this. Everything is more complicated than you think it is right now and the only way you come to know that is through experience. And that is what this whole process of growing up is about.”
I thought that this quote lends itself well to the big discussion of “college” that parents and their students are having. It’s easy for a lot of people to look at choosing college as not a big deal, find the right one and get to it. But if you break this quote down in relation to what’s actually going on in the minds of students, you will uncover the complication. So how do we get through the complication?
I get it, your kids don’t talk to you like they use to. In some instances the fact that they bring up college is a surprise, because up until now you may not have noticed any sort of interest in any particular field or going to college at all. There is a complicated battle going on inside your student’s brain. They don’t have the experience yet and they will act nonchalant but in all reality they are freaking out on the inside and are seeking your guidance. They are yearning to grow up but they still have one foot in the door at home because typically it’s safe and it’s all they have ever known. Be a sounding board for your child as they explore majors, colleges, career training, etc. They aren’t always going to go in the direction that you think they should. It’s important to have some flexibility within the rails of your ideal outcome. Open dialogue will help your student make the right decisions for themselves. And believe it or not, deep down, they want to make a decision that is right for them, but ultimately will still make you proud of them. You may think that their part of the college search equation isn’t that complicated compared to yours, but it really is. They are becoming adults and growing up, give them a little rope during the process.
In the paragraph above, I discussed the student’s complications so that parents can get a look inside the brain of their young adult that is getting ready to take that next big step. In this section, I want to address the student. You may be overwhelmed and you realize how complicated the search process is for you. But you have to understand that it’s incredibly complicated for your parents as well. Now luckily they have had some life experience that they are able to possibly compartmentalize their feelings a little more. You may have older siblings that have gone through the process that gives them a road map to work off as well. A lot of the complication for your parents comes from lack of communication on your part. Talk to you folks about what you’re interested in when it comes to majors, options after college, etc. They want to see you succeed and they understand that you’re ready to “grow up”. Truth bomb… one of the biggest complications in this process is “how to pay for school”. This is the one that most parents, typically 7 out of 10 will worry about the most. They may hide it from you, but realistically it’s there. Don’t be afraid to have the money talk with your folks. Until the age of 24 in most cases, they are still included in your Financial Aid Package, so it’s a conversation that needs to happen sooner than later. If they unveil the financials, be willing to have some flexibility in your direction as well. This discussion will help layout some good helpful parameters on your college search.
Life will open up great doors for you and it will also test you to your breaking point. But like the quote said earlier, that’s just the process of growing up!
As always… Dream It, Believe It, Do It and Win It.
Dustin Hall has been working in higher education for over 20 years. He's passionate about students, technology and entrepreneurship. Over the past two decades, he has owned several companies and worked at a number of private and public universities. At those universities he has held the titles of; Communications Coordinator, Asst. Dean of Residential and Campus Life, Director of Residence Life, Regional Admissions Officer, Director of Admissions and Adjunct Faculty. He's a big dreamer and doer and lives by his motto of "Dream It, Believe It, Do It and Win It!"